b e r e a l.

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There are too many people out there who aren't comfortable in their own skin. Living day by day trying to be someone they are not. Trying to be like her, dress like her, look like her. Instagram like her, Blog like her, Vine like her. Have as many followers as her, and likes as her.But guess what?
You are not her. Or her. Or her. Or her. Or her.You are you.And you have qualities that others wish they could have.

You were made to be your own person. Have your own wants, likes, and desires.That is what is so great about life.We are all different and have so much to offer. But we can't do that when we are  constantly comparing ourselves to others and not striving to build our own selves but rather someone else.

I think it is important to find people to look up to. People that inspire you and that you want to be like. But don't try and be them. Because truth is, you won't be. And it doesn't sound too lovely putting all your time and efforts into being someone else. It isn't happiness. It is just too much time wasted and invested into something that eventually won't work out.

Become yourself. Take qualities you like in other people and try to build them in your own way.
Don't copy them. Cause we are not all copies of each other. And goodness, lets be grateful for that. Have confidence in yourself. That you are someone that others look up to, for being yourself.

Accept your flaws. Embrace your weaknesses. Cause those are apart of you and make you different than everyone else. Don't be ashamed of them. Don't hide them. Acknowledge them and improve them. I find that the people I really admire are people who are real. People who know themselves and have accepted themselves. Even when they know they aren't perfect.

This is all easier said than done but you gotta start somewhere. I started with looking at my flaws.
Not in a completely negative way, but just really noticing them. Guys, I can be a blunt uncompassionate individual sometimes. I can read way too far into a situation and create a scenario that isn't even meant to be there. I think too much. I have things in my head and when they don't go as planned it sometimes temporarily ruins me. Sometimes I cuss. Those are all things that I don't love about myself but they are apart of me. They are. Simple as that. And I can improve them because I have that choice.

I then looked at reality. All those cute bloggers with thousands of followers? The ones with the perfect families, bodies, hair, and clothes? The crafty ones..and DIY masters...and the bakers. They are all incredible and perfect. But guess what? I am not them. I can take some of their traits and try and adapt them to my life, but I will never be them. And that is perfectly okay. Because I'm me. I get to be and create me. And I'm happy about that.

xo
bailey